A Salt and Light Kind of Influence

Dubai is listed as one of the most influential cities in the world. It’s easy to see the influence that various cultures have had by simply looking at the architecture landscape of Dubai’s buildings, the array of food served in restaurants and hotels, the various events that pop up around the city, and even in the way people dress and interact with each other. All of which can be attributed to the people that inhabit Dubai.

Over 86 percent of the nationalities living in Dubai are foreign born, a diversity that is almost unparalleled in other cities around the world. From Singapore to India, Britain to Finland, South Africa to the U.S., Australia to Japan and everywhere in between, the people of various visiting countries have influenced the way Dubai citizens live their lives.

Most expats moved to Dubai for a better job opportunity. We were offered a chance to move up in our career, to establish ourselves financially to give our families a new start, the adventure of a lifetime, and the opportunity to experience life in a different position – a position of influence. 

Whatever our situation, we would have never considered our “opportunity” strategic in any way with regards to being Christian; especially being Christian in Dubai. In this sense we could look at a group of people who wouldn’t have considered their existence strategic with regards to their beliefs either – the early church of first-century Christians.

Today, we associate Rome with the Catholic Church, but if you could go back in time and tell first-century Christians living in Rome that their city would one day be full of ornate crosses celebrating Jesus, they wouldn’t believe you. They lived in an environment hostile to their faith. People around them considered them members of a strange cult. They faced intense persecution.

The emperor Nero falsely accused them of setting the Great Roman Fire of 64 AD and punished them by crucifying them and feeding them to dogs. The apostles Peter and Paul were martyred during Nero’s persecution. Yet by the third century, Christianity had grown into the official religion of Rome. Thankfully, we personally live in a city that has a great appreciation for a variety of faiths.  Nevertheless, we are surrounded by a region that feels extremely similar. How then did such a hated, powerless people become so influential?

In his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus said some surprising things that reveal what he thought about power and influence. He lists a number of qualities that he associates with being blessed: those who are poor in spirit, mourn, and are meek; those who hunger and thirst for righteousness; those who are merciful and pure in heart; those who are peacemakers; those who are persecuted because of righteousness or are insulted because of their faith in him (Matthew 5:3–10).

None of what Jesus said made much sense to people living in first-century Rome. In their world, might made right. Women, children, the elderly, and the sick had no voice. Generosity wasn’t a virtue. Human life had little value. Yet within a few centuries, the followers of Jesus turned the Roman Empire upside down.

Jesus used two word pictures that explain how his followers, living on the margins of Roman society, changed their world. His metaphors were a call to his followers to live world-changing lives. Though they had no standing in the culture in which they lived, their lives would be the last stand.

“You are the salt of the earth” (Matthew 5:13a).

Salt is a preservative; it prevents food from rotting. Jesus was calling his followers to be the preservative of the entire earth. Though their world was falling down around them, first-century Christians lived out a kind of mercy, purity of heart, and righteousness that found worth in those that Roman society thought worthless. They demonstrated a powerful love that changed the way the world valued human life.

“You are the light of the world. A town placed on a hill cannot be hidden” (Matthew 5:14).

Jesus meant for his followers to light up the world, showing the way to God’s grace. He called them to live in such a way that the people around them would connect the dots between how Christians live and the God they serve.

If you’re a Christian, it’s because someone was salt and light in your life. God put them in your life at just the right time. When you look back on your life, those people were “towns on a hill,” showing you the way to God’s grace. Their persistence may have been a little irritating, but their love changed your life.

You have a chance to influence those around you during your time in Dubai with that same love and grace.  It’s a transient city, ever changing, with people coming and going from all around the world.  We have an opportunity wherever we are, in our workplace, in our neighborhoods, even on the roads in our cars, to be salt and light and help people connect what we do to the God we serve. We can be salt and light to the people of Dubai. Two things that Dubai’s culture absolutely loves when you think about it. Who is one person for whom you can be salt and light this week?

How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution (For Real This Time!)

For better or for worse, it’s the start of the New Year, so it comes as no surprise that people are bound to have made their resolutions by now.

This practice holds true for people everywhere, and whether you’re a Christian from a church in Dubai or otherwise – you’ve probably promised to yourself that you’ll turn over a new leaf or engage yourself in new activities. Whether it’s going to the gym, saving money, or making new friends, one thing remains the same no matter the wish – the unfortunate truth that very few people actually carry these promises out for as long as they’d initially envisioned them.

According to a study by John Norcross and his colleagues, 50% of the population makes a new year’s resolution annually, but why is it that only a chosen few are able to carry them out to completion? Is it simply because most people are too lazy? The answer actually lies in another study, this time by Timothy Pychyl – he argues that some people are simply unable to change their already established habits and that new year’s resolutions are a way for people to try to do so; he says that it is a form of “cultural procrastination” – an effort to reinvent one’s self.

In short, it’s a wish everyone has about themselves and their future that they want to turn into a reality.

Resolutions are a way for people to tell themselves that they’re going to regulate what happens in the coming year; it’s their way of mentally setting certain events in stone. The future is uncertain and by telling themselves they’re going to reach a certain goal or induce a certain event, they feel as if they can exert (even a minimal amount of) control on what will happen to them in the future.

But before enforcing them, it’s important to choose the best resolution for one’s self first. Short – term goals that provide instant gratification are well and good, but long – term goals that give bigger benefits are leaps and bounds better. (Setting a standard for ourselves is of course important – if we don’t’ someone else will.) Far too often we choose the quick way, the easy way – “good” gets in the way of God’s best most of the time. We get so caught up in forcing change in our lives that we think will be  for the better that we easily forget that God has a plan for us.

How God can help you reach your goals

First off, make sure that your goal is actually attainable. Make them SMART goals – specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely – this makes it so that you can “track your progress” as you fulfil your resolution, thus fuelling you to do even better as time goes by and progress is made. (This will keep you going throughout the year and prevent you from dropping your resolution in the first month or two as others do.)

The next step is to release all of your anxiety and doubt; place your trust in God that he will get you to where you want to go. After all, he can only help those who want him to; people must involve themselves in the process. Remember – he began his good work, you, and he will surely finish it. (See Philippians 1:6.) We as humans tend to see the problems of our past (and thus want to change it), but God instead sees the potential in our future.

Lastly, lead a life of purity and blamelessness – undoubtedly a tall order for most.

Philippians 1: 9-10 says:

“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ…”

But what can it do for you? Well, purity brings clarity so you can see what’s best for you both in the short – term and the long – term. On the other hand, blamelessness can bring peace and inner freedom, allowing you to do whatever it is you want without having to worry about your conscience and keep up pretences.

Always keep in mind that God is a master, and he always makes masterpieces – you included. But, it takes a little time.

Right In The Eye: A Copycat “Good Life”

Human beings learn by mimicking other people’s behavior. There is, however, a downside to it – sometimes we copy exactly the way other people live. Then again, why not? After all, it worked for them, so it would turn out the same for you, wouldn’t it?

Unfortunately and fortunately, that isn’t the case. And sometimes, it takes a Christian church in Dubai for you to know that.

Same Old Envy

In fact, this problem goes way back to the Bible times, in the Old Testament. There was a time in Israel’s history when they didn’t have a king, but they had God to watch over them and the Judges to make sure that the Israelites followed the law. The people, however, thought that it was a flawed form of government simply because none of the neighboring countries that they wanted to emulate. So instead of what God had ordained things to be, they wanted a king as well. And aside from having a mortal ruler rather than a heavenly one, they also wanted to do the same things the nearby empires did – follow the same norms, practice the same rites, and worship the same idols. So they did.

This, however, did not turn out as well as they thought it would. Because if we look back to the story of Israel you will see that after worshipping the same bloodthirsty false gods and goddesses of the Canaanites, they were captured by the very people they imitated.

Not As Good As You Think

So, how does this relate to us? That is because sometimes, at many points in our lives, we too become just like the Israelites, who are always looking at others, always trying to imitate the very path others are taking. This is because there are a lot of times when we think that the people around us lead a life that is much better than ours. And because of this mindset, the first thing we think of doing is by imitating what they are doing. After all, if it worked for them, then it must work for you, right? Well, most of the time, no. In fact, it is a lot less likely to work for you, for it is their life and not yours; the things and actions that lead them to their success and happiness may not lead to your own.

Besides, more often than not, the good lives we think other people are experiencing are usually not as good as they actually are. This is because we are only seeing the good things and are completely oblivious of the bad. After all, it’s impossible to have a life that only has highs and no lows. And since we don’t know the downsides to their lives, we get blindsided when we copy theirs.

God has designed a life specially for us, one that He promised to lead to everything that is good for us. And we cannot experience such a life if all we do is follow others.

Right in the Eye: A Story Rarely Told

Do what you want wherever, whenever, and with whoever you want to – that is our society’s concept of freedom. After all, as long as there’s nobody getting hurt, it’s all good, right? Unfortunately, if you follow that twisted notion of freedom, people will get hurt – including you.

You may find that hard to believe, but it’s true. To show that doing anything and everything according to how you see them fit is wrong. Here’s a story they don’t teach often in a Christian church, be it in Dubai or anywhere else in the world.

A Levite and His Concubine

This is a story in the Bible that is written in Judges 19-21.

There was a time in the Old Testament when Israel had no king. They had no state laws or a leader to obey. And in those times, there was a Levite who lived in Ephraim together with his concubine, who came all the way from Bethlehem in Judah, a country that Israel didn’t have good relations at that time.

The Levite’s concubine was unfaithful, so she went back to her family in Bethlehem, and after four months the Levite went after her to get her back. On the day they left, however, they began their journey quite late into the day already, so they were forced to stay in the town of Gibeah for the night. Nobody wanted to take them in at first, save an old man from Ephraim.

Unfortunately, some wicked men wanted to make the Levite feel unwelcome by pounding on the door of the old man’s house. Concerned, the old man told them to stop and offered his own daughter and the Levite’s concubine; he told them that he can do anything they want to with the two as long as they don’t harm the Levite, and so they did. They abused her the entire night, and come morning light she arrived at the door of the old man’s house, where she died.

Outraged by his concubine’s death, he sent a letter to the eleven tribes of Israel, telling them what happened. To make a statement, he sent the letters together with severed parts of his concubine’s body. In response, the eleven tribes sent armed envoys to Gibeah, asking their leaders to give up the perpetrators. They refused, so war broke between Gibeah and the eleven tribes of Israel. The latter lost for two days, but on the third day, as vengeance, they burned down the cities as well as the other cities of Benjamin, effectively wiping out the tribe – or so the eleven tribes thought.

Realizing that what they did was wrong and discovering that there were 600 men who remained from the tribe of Benjamin – soldiers who were able to escape the conflict, the eleven tribes decided to repopulate the Benjamites by giving them the women of Jabesh-Gilead, a town that was supposed to be put to death for failing to assemble before the Lord in Mizpah.

A Bloody History, A Destructive Reality

So, what was the point of telling you an obscure and brutal biblical story? Because it’s the perfect example of what happens when people do whatever they want to whenever, wherever, and with whoever they want to – pain and destruction abounds.

Think about it; the ones who advocate such a paradigm are the privileged – people whose lives won’t reel so much from wrong decisions. Your parents, teachers, boss, and other regular folk, especially those who are concerned for your welfare, would never tell you this. Why? Because at the very least, it never helps, and at worst, it harms. After all, there are many things we do with wanton disregard for others in the name of freedom, and it hurts them. And then there are things we do that although do not harm others, harm a very important person: you.

There are many things you can do to yourself, especially awful ones, that you think won’t affect others. Except they do. But why and how? Because people care about you – your friends, family, and God. Doing things that do not affect others but at the same time harm you in the long run makes them worry and hurts them.

We do not live for and by ourselves alone. Therefore, in everything that we do, we should always think of the consequences. After all, our actions, regardless of how big or small they are, affect everyone.

 

On Love and Intimacy

“It’s just sex, right?” This is a common notion for a lot of people nowadays, especially the single youth. That is why this generation does one-night stands, have “friends with benefits”, and other catchy terms for casual sex. Well, there’s nothing wrong with it. After all, it’s just sex, a part of our human nature. It’s just sex, a purely physical thing wherein we use our bodies to make us feel good, right? Unfortunately, that is not the case.

The Christian church in Dubai, America, and many other organizations have been trying to confront this reality: sex isn’t just a physical activity, and that you can get hurt if you treat it as such.

Scars from the Past

Think about it; if sex really is as purely physical as a lot of people say it is, then why is it that a lot of people get hang-ups as well as emotional damage from it?

There are cases where it is clearly evident that it isn’t just a physical activity but has emotional and psychological underpinnings. Cases of sexual abuse are sensitive and serious examples of this. It takes years for victims to recover from it, sometimes even almost their entire lives.  The most heartbreaking part is that it happens to women, men, and children; and not a lot of people are discussing the dangers of it. In fact frustratingly, it is the victims that are being shamed for this and it is a topic that is being shunned and shelved because of its very sensitivity.

Clearly, sex needs to be taken seriously because it can have an even deeper effect on people.

Something Deep to Something Physical

Well, if that’s not the case, then why is it that a lot of people – probably including you – think that it’s just an act where you use your body to feel good with somebody, nothing more and nothing less? That’s because we live in a culture that claims that sex is just a simple, superficial, and physical activity. And for a lot of people, that’s a very convenient mindset, as it would allow them to think that they can have sex recreationally. But at one point or another, the reality that sex goes beyond physical comes crashing on them.

Going Beyond Feeling Good

Of course, sex is something that should be enjoyed, but its purpose for human beings – God’s most precious creation – is a lot deeper, a lot more special. It’s for a word that we don’t usually hear anymore: intimacy.

The main purpose of sex is for us to be able to express our intimacy with someone in a physical manner. In fact, if you take into consideration the Creation Story, it was first the animals that had sex. But when the gift was given to Adam and Eve, and ultimately to us, it was on an entirely different level. It’s not just about procreation, but about an expression of intimacy that is passionate, fearless, and incomparable. That is why sex, a wonderful thing, can be so damaging when misused, and so beautiful when it’s done in the context of true intimacy – between two people who truly love each other.

Sex is supposed to feel good. However, it’s not supposed to feel that way just because the body says it does, but because it is the greatest physical expression of intimacy. Love and intimacy is always  good, and that is why it must be treasured and cherished and not be treated as a sport.

The True Essence of Love

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship or marriage. However, some people believe that there is, and they think that it can be achieved simply by finding the right person. That, of course, is a misconception that has lead to disappointment and, more importantly and worse, broken or dysfunctional unions and families.

Love, courtship, and marriage may be often taught in Christian churches in Dubai or anywhere else in the world, but it’s not so often that they tell you this: the right person, no matter how much you think that he or she is the right one for you, isn’t going to solve your love-related problems or make you a better lover. People don’t realize this, and that is why relationships and marriages fail.

A Past Scene 

Before getting into a relationship and getting in front of the altar, you have to first get into the dating scene. And whether you’re looking for someone you want to commit to or just would like to go around and have fun with people, you should know that what you do in this part of your life can affect your future relationships and ultimately your marriage. Because even if you don’t want to commit for now, there may come a time when you already will.

In fact, according to Pastor Andy Stanley, he encounters a lot of couples who ask for his help, and he finds out that a lot of them do not actually have a marriage problem. Instead, what they have are problems from their single lives that they carried over to the marriage. This is because they thought that by marrying the “right person”, all the hang-ups they once had in the past are now over. And then there are those who think that by tying the knot with “The One”, they are going to find something as heavy and major as a marriage to be easy as pie, only to find out that they were wrong when it’s already too late.

More than Chemistry

The reason why these unfortunate fallouts happen is because a lot of people who are looking for a partner think that chemistry and passion will solve all of their problems. What they don’t know, however, is that they should be working on the relationship instead. So when things hit the fan, men think ithat sex, in an attempt to improve their chemistry, is going to fix everything, while the women assume that having a baby – which involves having sex, and is therefore wanted by men – will.

Both of them, however, are not solutions. In fact, bringing forth a child to this world will bring even more problems. And when all of these struggles hit critical mass, their chemistry, the couple’s passion for one another, gets damaged, making them think that they married the wrong person. This leads to divorces and second marriages, which have higher failure rate than first marriages, because they do the same mistakes they did during their previous one.

Love Is…

If chemistry is not enough, then what does it take to make relationships and marriages work? Love. However, it’s not the kind of fluffy, passionate love that is glamorized by movies and novels, but the one found in 1 Corinthians 13.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres.” -1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

This is what committed people must do: be patient and kind towards each other, not be envious of one another, refrain from trying to one-up the other, be respectful with one another, put your partner’s needs first, and not keep track of their wrongs. It’s not easy work, but it’s what makes relationships and marriages work.

The reason why couples call it “working it out” when they try to fix their problems is because it’s not easy, and because problems don’t get fixed by working around. They don’t get resolved by looking for another “Right One” either. So, if you want your commitment to succeed, be ready to work things out. Be ready to truly love.

Learn, Listen and Lead

Whatever you do in life, listening is important, especially if you’re a leader. Whether you’re the CEO of a mega-corporation in New York or a pastor in a Christian church in Dubai, it’s an integral life skill that you must possess.

It’s a common misconception that leaders, because of their authority and the nature of their role, are supposed to be the ones talking instead of listening. However, that should not be the case; leaders should open their ears just as much as they speak, or perhaps they should do the former even more.

Listening is Learning

Information – a term that is often associated with those who work in fields of science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. However, little do people know that it’s also something that is highly valued by leaders as well.  After all, they need information to organize those who follow them, plan future goals, deal with processes, and predict and solve problems. And one of the best ways to learn the information you need is by listening to others.

If you want to be a good leader, you should understand that you might not be the most intelligent person in the group, or that you have the expertise – and therefore the information – needed for a particular aim, problem, or system – and that’s okay! All you need to do is to ask for and listen to the opinion of those under you who have the necessary knowledge and experience that you want and need.

Who to Listen to

If you project an imposing image that makes you seem unapproachable, closed off, and unwilling to listen, you’ll either drive them away or make them grow silent, leaving you with nobody to ask advice from, as you have made it seem to them that whatever input they could have provided is unimportant or unneeded. That is why in order to find the people you need, you first have to be more open and receptive of  what other people would have to say. This is because people love telling their opinions and knowledge to someone who will readily accept them and find them helpful.

From the pool of people who are willing to give you their perspective, select those who can help you. Make it a regular thing to gather people who have suggestions regarding the organization. They don’t have to be someone who is in a high-ranking position; in fact, you shouldn’t be ignoring those on the grassroots level, as they have firsthand experience with the daily operations of your organization.

Set up meetings or open forums, talk to people verbally instead of just relying on written reports, or even organize a system of your own that allows people to be heard and for you to listen.

Other than the Positive

The people under you will tell you different things – positive, negative, or even neutral. It’s good to receive something positive – a compliment or two should make you feel that you’re on the right track. However, criticisms, failures, unwanted suggestions and other things that you may take as negative should be given just as much attention to, if not more. They can be the most bitter of pills to swallow, but it is through them that you learn the things you have to improve on. So when you receive them, don’t instinctively react; instead, keep an open ear and mind first, and try to see the merits of such comments.

Leaders should only speak and followers should only listen – a misconception that you should’ve unlearned by now. After all, you can never be a good leader if you are not a listener.

It’s Worse Than You Thought

The first step to solving a problem is to admit you have a problem. The second is to figure out what that problem is. However, we often don’t realize that the problem may be that you don’t know what the problem may be! This is something that everyone, even those who don’t really attend a Christian church in Dubai, can relate to in a way.

It is certainly not uncommon for a person to feel that there is a “problem’ within themselves“, but being unable to figure out exactly what it is. In Romans 7:15-16, the apostle Paul describes his problem as “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good.”

One way or another, we all have an internal sense of knowing what should be the right thing to do. We are aware of which actions will be the better choice for our health, our relationships, and many other aspects of our lives. And yet we are still not consistent in doing what we need to do. What is causing us to do what we SHOULDN’T do despite knowing better?

Knowing the problem VS Solving the problem

Knowing the problem is not the same as having the solution to it. We can be well aware of what the problem is and know what we need to do: after all, there is no shortage of advice from the people close to us, from self-help books, from the bible, and so many other sources. In reality we don’t really need anyone to tell us exactly what to do. It’s not that we don’t know what to do. Sometimes we know the solution YET we can’t figure out how to do it.

The real problem: the original sin

Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned- – Romans 5:12

Have you ever noticed how we weren’t taught how to sin? One of the reasons we are unable to change certain aspects of ourselves despite knowing they are wrong is that we forget one very important detail: we are all born in sin. No one taught us how to sin, yet it comes naturally to us, because we were all born in sin!

Before you get offended, remember that we were all born a sinner not because of the things we did, but because we were born in Adam. Hence when Adam sinned, everyone born after him sinned.

That’s not all. What followed in the heels of sin is death. Notice how this occurs even today. Whether it is a part of ourselves, our relationships, or an actual person, death follows any act of sin we do.

The solution

You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. – Romans 5:6

Apostle Paul says we are all ungodly. Rather than take this as judgment, we should take it as it is. God is perfect, and we are imperfect. There are no exceptions. We are ungodly not because we are horrible people, but because we are not God.

Thus, God demonstrates His own love in that while we were still sinners, Jesus Christ died for us on the cross. At the exact moment that men all over the world were doing some act of sin, Jesus died on the cross in order for us to be forgiven for our sins.

The gift of justification

But the gift is not like the trespass. For if the many died by the trespass of the one man, how much more did God’s grace and the gift that came by the grace of the one man, Jesus Christ, overflow to the many! – Roman 5:15

The trespass was Adam’s act of sin in the garden that condemned all men. Sin is driven from having been born in Adam, but the gift of a right standing with God is much more powerful! The gift followed many trespasses, bringing justification. However when we are taken out of Adam and placed into Christ, then we are given the gift of righteousness and justification. God sees each and every one of us as someone who is forgiven. This also means that despite us feeling incapable of doing what is right at times, we are actually capable of reigning over all the power that seems to overpower us because of the original sin — through Christ.

Seeking Balance Between Work and Family

Most of us can agree that it is not easy balancing our duties to both our work and our family. With the stress of juggling all the demands of our professional and personal life, it can leave any person stressed out and drained. It leaves you feeling exhausted about having to struggle between busying yourself with work and spending time with your family. You know that once you turn your back on one, the guilt of missing out on a lot of family activities or waiting for work to accumulate and pile up, that you just need to stop this divided attention as soon as possible.

The pastors at Mosaic Church Dubai, a growing Christian church in Dubai, highly believe in properly managing your time and responsibilities to be able to balance both family duties and work. There are circumstances that you will have to make choices properly and make some sacrifices that need to be done to reach a work-life balance.

Re-prioritizing

Balancing work and family does not only mean dividing your time equally between duties. There will be times when you will be required to do one first over the other. The key here is to re-prioritize. You need to do a breakdown of what seems equally important. If your tasks involve other people, ask when they need your help and then organize them accordingly.

Of course family concerns, especially those that are urgent should be prioritized no matter what. However, some people think that holding back somewhere means that whatever is the direst situation will get more of your attention. But this will only teach your family to reach out to you when there’s a crisis. By re-prioritizing, as Andy Stanley puts it, you’re “cheating” the system. You will be able to get behind work for a little while to spend time with your family, and then jump right back into it without sacrificing work quality.

Asking for Help

One of the problems adults have is always trying to do tasks themselves, both in work and family matters. Being independent is always a good thing, but you also have to consider that you have limits and it extends to your family as well. Admitting that you need help can be freeing. It may be difficult to do so, but being both a parent and an employee is a responsibility that shouldn’t reach the border of neglect. There will be times when we will need help and ask for assistance to ensure that our family gets the care that they need, or that our work is done properly.

Having Time for Yourself

It’s likely that you’re stressing out about not being able to meet everyone else’s needs. So it goes without saying that before you can take care of everyone you love and your career, you will have to take proper care of yourself first. When you re-prioritize, make sure that you allot time to relax and take a break. Give yourself time to recover and think of new habits in managing your time better.

Letting Go of the Guilt

Letting go of your guilt, from not being able to exert the effort in spending time with your family as well as performing well in your professional life, is the easiest thing you can do. Why dwell on past mistakes when you can do better and make it right? You do not need to waste any more time in living with the guilt. Take a step forward to the present. Live in it and start from there. You will be happier once you do so.

You do make sacrifices in order to keep a good balance in your career and with your family. This comes with the understanding of the need to focus your time and energy to the things that really matter. It is also important that you enjoy the time with both aspect of your lives.